Have a Little Faith | Part I

Can you predict which marriages will survive? I asked.

“Sometimes,” he said. “If they’re communicating well, they have a good chance. If they have a similar belief system, similar values, they have a good chance.”

What about love?

“Love they should always have. But love changes.”

What do you mean?

“Love – the infatuation kind – ‘he’s so handsome, she’s so beautiful’ – that can shrivel. As soon as something goes wrong, that kind of love can fly out the window.

“On the other hand, a true love can enrich itself. It gets tested and grows stronger. Like in Fiddler on the Roof. You remember? When Teyve sings ‘Do You Love Me?’?”

I should have seen this coming. I think Fiddler on the Roof was pretty much the Reb’s worldview. Religion. Tradition. Community. And a husband and wife – Teyve and Golde – whose love is proven through action, not words.

“When she says, ‘How can you ask if I love you? Look at all I’ve done with you. What else would you call it?’

That kind of love – the kind you realize you already have by the life you’ve created together – that’s the kind that lasts”.

(Have a Little Faith, Mitch Albom, page 143)

One thought on “Have a Little Faith | Part I

  1. this one I learnt from my English literature class back in KMS. mungkin you’ll find it related, but in Christianity, especially by C. S. Lewis’ works, there are 4 kinds of love, from 4 Greek words that mean ‘love’ in the Bible:

    Storge – Affection

    Philia – Friendship

    Eros – Romance

    Agape – Unconditional Love

    Like, the first two or three years the marriage might be based on ‘ Eros’, but for relationship to be strong, it must be as “holy” as ‘agape’- the ‘true love’- the love you reserve for one truly special- God, family, spouse.

    i think this Western view of love penetrated well into their literature- especially during the Romantic era.

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